I’m learning to do something I can’t do yet. It’s a 30 day program that I’ve had sitting around for ages but never even looked at, let alone started. I thought a 30-day program would work in well with the 30-days growth mindset challenge, but it’s going to take me longer because I want to explore each lesson thoroughly before moving on.
The first week I was having fun. This week it’s getting more challenging, and a couple of days ago I noticed myself saying things like what I was doing was no good, I was never going to get the hang of this and it was too hard. One day I wanted to give up and walk away.
It was lesson 4! Lesson Four. I’d been learning this skill for about 15 minutes a day for nine days. That’s a bit over two hours.
Thinking about how frustrated I was getting brought to mind an article by James Clear that said something along the lines of: when you’re learning to do something, you don’t have the right to be disappointed in your performance. You aren’t supposed to be good. That’s the point of learning.
“You and me? We’re not good enough to be disappointed yet. We’re bad enough to get to work.”
If I’d been doing this for years and it was my profession or I’d developed a high level of skill, then maybe it might have been reasonable to be disappointed in it being a struggle and that things weren’t perfect. (But even then, it would have been an opportunity to learn and do better next time.)
I told that disappointed voice to bugger off and I kept going, even though I wanted to give up. I still wasn’t happy with the result, but told myself that every time I practise it will be an opportunity to do it better. And that I won’t get better unless I practise.
So there, fixed mindset voice.